Tag: relationship

My partner cheated and I still stayed. I didn’t think I was going to be that one but I was. I stayed because I felt the love was more than the pain. Is that a reason to stay when cheated on ? Yes and No. Love isn’t always the answer. Sometimes you have to leave when you love somebody, no matter how much pain but I felt we could overcome this. Well, two wrongs don’t make a right and I cheated back after, in which we found out. We moved passed it. Now, this doesn’t mean everything will be the same because it sure wasn’t. Trust was gone on both ends. The question remains will they cheat again? There was a lot in between the time, we did break up but for other reasons, however, we got back together after 8 months. We did some stuff in between the time, talked to other people but …

Second time around, it was going well at first. But it started to slowly fade, arguments again, trust not there again, just no communication there. I battled with wanting to break it off again and move on, and i tried. It didn’t go well for me but months to come— will they cheat again? In my circumstance, yes. Cheating happened again, never physically but cheating is cheating but who is to say physically cheating never happened but long distance relationships, who knows.

This time was different, it was after we got back together because he wanted too. I still don’t understand why but besides that, come to find out he had been cheating the whole time we had been back together. I had a feeling but didn’t know what but I found the answer. My question to myself: Am I going to stay this time or leave? Well, I confronted him— this time he lied about it when all the proof I had pointed to him. I can’t say I am perfect because we both had our fair-share of Infidelity, but how can you go through so much with one person and throw it all way. I know, some people will say that is not love. Some will say that’s toxic. Some will say you need to leave. Some will also say, you need to love yourself. Loving yourself doesn’t mean you have to leave somebody when they cheat. But I am not here for that, and this time around.. I still stayed. I didn’t stay for our child. I stayed because I love him, I stayed because it’s my heart, it’s my relationship, I know how I feel, I know what happened, and we can get through this with a little help BUT both have to want to work through it. This second time around I wasn’t as upset because again, i am not perfect— I can’t tell you how much work it will be or how long it will take to trust again. I can’t tell you if they will cheat again but I can say, next time, I will not stay.